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“I think I have too many dreams,” she said.
I smiled in response. I loved her ambition, her wild imagination, and the sheer brilliance of thinking big.
“You don’t have too many dreams. You just have big ambitions and every single one of your dreams is possible.”
Here’s the snag: she didn’t know which dream to pursue because she felt like if she went after one, she would automatically lose the rest. Yet again I smiled. I’d heard this line of thinking plenty of times. Hell, I once thought like that too!
If you can relate and you have no idea how to narrow your focus down to a singular item I’m going to help you. Ask yourself this one question: what do you want to be known for after you die?
Take a minute or a day, however long you need to sit with that question. Once you understand the legacy that you want to leave it’s time to reverse engineer the path. For instance, maybe you want to be known as the most decorated esports player in the history of the industry. The next step is figuring out what competitive gamers do to become spectacular and mimic it.
Yes, it’s really that simple.
Oh gosh! I have no idea what I want to be known for after I’m buried 6 feet deep!
Take a deep breath, and relax! You don’t need to have the answer yet. Not having the answer, is actually an answer. It simply means that you haven’t experienced enough to really know what you want out of life or how you want to impact the world.
Here’s the quick fix: go out there and do stuff! Go join clubs, organizations, classes, meetup groups, and whatever else is out there. Do as much as you possibly can to understand what gets you in the flow.
Don’t fret, you’re just early in the process. You WILL get there.
Dude, I LOVE 10 different things and I want to be known for all of them. HELP!
Let me start by saying that you don’t need to jump into all 10 different things right away. If you choose 1, the other 9 don’t disappear. Choose the first one, see it through, and check-in with yourself. Maybe you’ll discover that being a deepsea fisherman wasn’t your dream, rather it was more of an enjoyable hobby.
Furthermore, becoming paralyzed about the choice is much worse than not making a choice. Think about not picking any of your interests and just ruminating about it forever. When you die people will say “He sure had a lot of cool ideas. It’s too bad he never did anything with them!”
That’s a lame legacy.
I’m done begging for you to choose. This is the part where I desperately urge you to understand that dreams and passions evolve. When I was fresh out of college I wanted to be a cyber threat detective, I wanted to be a high-level executive, and I even wanted to be the CEO’s right hand.
There’s nothing wrong with those desires, but 5 years later I don’t want any of those things. My dreams and passions have morphed. Don’t despair when some passions and dreams don’t turn out to be what you thought, instead be open to new passions.
There is always an opportunity to fall in love with something else. Your passion is out there waiting for you. Get out there, find it, focus, and create the legacy you want.