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Meetings and presentations are giant ego strokes.
Does anyone ever really get anything done? Half the people are on their phone, the other half is fighting to stay awake, and everyone couldn’t care less about the conversation. Personally, I don’t like to bring my phone to meetings. I bring a notepad to doodle. This creates the illusion that I care, that I’m diligently taking notes, and it helps me stay awake.
Big companies typically have boring meetings. It’s the norm, heck it’s almost a necessity. This usually happens because the meetings are aimless and led by someone who doesn’t know how to speak to a group. In my experience, the organizer only has a slideshow and no point.
Recently, I heard an interesting habit practiced by high performers. Brendon Burchard, the author of High Performance Habits, writes that high performers across the board set an intention for every interaction they have throughout the day. So, that means high performers know what they want to take away from the morning meeting, the conference call, the quick business lunch, and their 1-on-1 meetings.
It sounded easy enough so I decided to give it a test-drive. I’ll walk you through what I did and how it has impacted me so far.
About 1 hour after waking up, but 30 minutes before walking out the door I sit down in a quiet space. I whip out my journal and pen, then set a timer on my phone for 5-10 minutes. That’s all I allow for this practice.
I write CONTINUOUSLY for that 10-minute block of time. First, I write down people I interact with frequently. Then, next to their names I write down how I want to engage with them. For example, if I’m expecting a call from my parents I write down that I want to have a loving, meaningful, funny, and joyous conversation. I may also write that I want to serve them in any way that I can.
I’ve found it extremely helpful to write down everyone you expect to speak with but to also use categories and events. So, maybe you’ve got a coffee meetup with your mentor. Great! Write down “coffee meeting” and what you wish to take away. I also enjoy writing about what I will bring to the meeting. No, I don’t mean my laptop or my doodle pad. I write down what emotions, mindset, and qualities I will bring.
You’re not done after you’ve listed all the people and your interaction intentions! There’s one incredibly significant person you need to write down and plan interaction with.
It’s yourself. Write down how you plan to interact with yourself. How will you talk to yourself? Will you bring confidence today? Will you bring strength today? When you’re alone with your thoughts, what are you seeking to accomplish?
Write it all down!
I love this habit. I’ve only been at it for 2 weeks and it has already reshaped the way I behave.
I’m more present with the people I speak with. It reminds me to bring respect and care into every conversation. That’s not just with people I know, but also with complete strangers.
A few days ago I was in such a foul mood even after this ritual. I was huffing, puffing, and grumbling. Then, I realized I had to lead a (meaningless) meeting. My mind tackled the negativity and spoke: “You said you’d bring positive energy!”
Lo and behold my mental fog dissipated. I spoke with cheerfulness, confidence, and joy. I took in the smiles and appreciated the moment. I wasn’t going to infect anyone with my crappy attitude.
Application To Business
Your team, your meetings, your emails, and all your calls can benefit from you being more intentional. Walk into every meeting and know what you want to achieve. Don’t let it be some ego flexing showcase.
Use this practice to bring awareness to how you’re working towards your goals. Make every meeting and conversation more meaningful. Bring your full self to every dialogue. You’ll be surprised how quickly things will begin to align.